Have we forgotten how to Love one another? Do you know where all the Love has gone? Have we lost it somewhere?
In 1967, the Beatles released a song written by John Lennon that said that Love is all you need, but where is it?
Have we forgotten how to Love each other? Have we been so inundated over the past few months by social media with visions and voices of hatred and violence that we’ve forgotten how to Love one another?
There have been millions of songs written over the years to remind us about the importance of having love, the pain of loosing it, the joy of finding it, how excruciating it is searching for it and the overwhelming euphoria we experience being in love. With all that information we really shouldn’t have any problem knowing how to Love one another, but apparently there is a problem.
If songs aren’t enough to help us remember, then maybe looking at some of the thousands of books, plays and movies like Shakespeare’s, Romeo and Juliet and the 1970 movie Love Story. Those might help us remember how wonderful Love is to give, receive and how horrible it is to loose it.
Maybe if we read sonnet 43, written by Elizabeth Barrett Browning titled – How Do I Love Thee – when she counted the ways that she loved her husband Robert Browning… that might help. Oh, and then there was that weekly television program about a Love Boat. Remember that series? I loved it. Darn. There’s that word again.
Music has told us to Stop in the name of love and that Love is in the air. If it was really in the air, we’d all breath it in and we’d be full of love all the time.
If none of that works, remember that the world has set aside one day a year to celebrate Love and to remind us just how important we are to each other.
On February 14th every year, we spend billions of dollars showing and telling each other how much we love one another, just in case we’ve forgotten to say it and act like it the rest of the year.
Americans buy over 145 million Valentine’s Day cards each year, costing over 1 billion dollars. Did you get one? Did you send one? Did you forget? Maybe it got lost too.
We spend an average of 2 billion dollars on flowers. I love flowers, but just think about all the gardens we could plant all over the world or how many people we could feed with 2 billion dollars.
In the US, people spend $1.8 billion on candy, $3.5 billion on an evening out and $2.1 billion on clothing for this holiday, according to the National Retail Federation. Amazing! We could feed a small country with that much money!
On top of that, approximately 6 million people will either give someone jewelry or get engaged on that day, professing undying love for one another… spending over 3.9 billion dollars.
If we can remember to spend all of that time, money and effort to express Love to one another on just one day in February, why is it so hard to remember to show it the other 364 days of the year? We know how to do it. Why do we try to cram all the Love we have for one another into one day? Does showing love once a year give us a get out of jail card and justify being mean and hateful the rest of the year? Is Valentine’s Day some kind of general absolution for the way we act the rest of the year?
Here’s an idea. Why not have Valentine’s Day in July like we sometimes celebrate Christmas in July? No. Wait. Retailers do that to spike sales during slow months. Better yet, why not have a Valentine’s Year! That’s what we need right now. Maybe we could dedicate the rest of 2020 to building things up, spreading a little Love around and making things better instead of tearing them down and destroying one another.
We seem to use Valentine’s Day like a giant string on our finger to remind us that we need to tell others we love them and that we need to be loved… even if it’s for one day. My question is…why should we need to be reminded to do something that we know we should be doing every day?
Wait a minute! Did we even celebrate February 14th this year? Did we forget? Is that what happened to Love? Were we so distracted by covid 19, all the riots and the political wars that we forgot? I don’t remember.
Were we shut down and locked in on Valentines day? Did we miss our chance to show Love this year? Is that when we lost it and subsequently forgot how to Love one another?
We need to remember how to Love and be nice to one another again. I think we’ve forgotten how to act and speak to one another without anger, ridicule, hatred and bias getting in the way.
Thank God for all the doctors and nurses, grocery store workers, utility workers, food delivery people, truck drivers, etc. who have stayed on the front lines working endless hours despite the risk for themselves and their families. They have been putting their own well being and safety on the line for US the entire time we’ve been safely locked away in isolation. It looks like they may be the ones that actually remember what Love is.
What about the rest of us. What have we done to show love in the past few months? What have you done?
I know most of us have been staying home in the big shut down, but some were out protesting in the streets.
I understand why people were protesting. I recognize and respect their right to freedom of speech, but somewhere, somehow the protests got out of hand. Peaceful protests gave way to violence, destruction of property, Anger then escalated to Rage and Hatred. Those of us in isolation watched as the America we love began to disintegrate in front of our eyes and Love was no where to be found.
We all have the right to peacefully protest, but our Constitution does not say we have the right to destroy property, or to steal what doesn’t belong to us, or to beat each other up or kill one another. Hate, Anger and Violence exploded in our streets and Respect and Love disappeared.
We need Love not Hate. We need to Make Love not War. We all know better.
Hate is not who we are. Is it? I don’t want Hate and Anger to define who I am or to define my country. I don’t want to live in a world where Hate and Violence is acceptable and the norm. No one says ” Lets go to America…it’s the Land of Hate and Violence!” No one says, ” I’m so happy! I feel so Hated!”
I don’t know any songs declaring how great Hate is. Do You? Do we set aside a day each year and spend millions celebrating Hate? NO! THAT’S NOT WHO WE ARE!
How many cards have you purchased this year reminding people just how much you Hate them? Better yet…How many Hate cards have you recieved?
That’s just plain silly…or is it? There were some in America and in the world that decided that it was okay to burn down their neighbor’s businesses, beat them or even shoot them to show how much they Hated them. Maybe they did it because they couldn’t find any I Hate You with all my Heart cards at Hallmark.
Is this really who we’ve become? I can’t believe that it is. We are better than this. I think it’s time we stop and remember a few things.
I think it’s time to remember that God created EACH of us out of LOVE. ALL of us were made in His image according to Genesis 1:27 27 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God also tells us that we should Love one another.
In the Book of John, Scripture tells us God is Love. Well, there you have it. If God is Love then we just need to get closer to God to find it, rekindle it and then let God’s Love shine through us. Sounds simple enough.
1 John 4:7–8 7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
Genesis 2:18 18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” It doesn’t matter…man or woman. Bottom line is that We need each other.
God knows how important Love and affection is. He created us out of love, to be loved and to love. He knows how much we need each other to survive. We need to listen to Him. He knows us better than we know ourselves.
In fact, in 1944, there was a scientific experiment conducted in the United States using 40 newborn infants to determine whether individuals could thrive alone on basic physiological needs without affection.
Twenty newborn infants were housed in a special facility where they had caregivers who would go in to feed them, bathe them and change their diapers, but they would do nothing else. The caregivers had been instructed not to look at or touch the babies more than what was necessary, never communicating with them. All their physical needs were attended to scrupulously and the environment was kept sterile, none of the babies became ill.
The experiment was halted after four months, by which time, at least half of the babies had died at that point. At least two more died even after being rescued and brought into a more natural familial environment. There was no physiological cause for the babies’ deaths; they were all physically very healthy.
Before each baby died, there was a period where they would stop verbalizing and trying to engage with their caregivers. They generally stopped moving. There was no crying or even a change in their expression; death followed shortly after. The babies who had “given up” before being rescued, died in the same manner, even though they had been removed from the experimental conditions.
The conclusion was that nurturing is actually a very vital need in humans. Whilst this was taking place, in a separate facility, the second group of twenty newborn infants were raised with all their basic physiological needs provided along with the addition of affection from the caregivers. This time however, the outcome was as expected, no deaths occurred.
After seeing this story, my first thought was, where did they get all the newborns for the study and where were the parents? Were these abandoned children? Were they orphans or War Babies? Were they illegitimate babies born during the second World War? If they were, they were innocent victims and should be considered casualties of War.
Illegitimate Babies born in this time period were often discarded and had no rights. No one would have cared if they were used for experiments like this.
This study makes me sick and breaks my heart. I was an illegitimate baby. What if the study had been done in 1952. I could have been one of the unwanted babies that didn’t matter. I could have been left to die, all because someone didn’t think my life had any value…because someone forgot that I, along with all the other babies, was a gift of Love from God to the world…just like you were.
God doesn’t make mistakes. We do. Our disregard for the sanctity of life, whether towards Babies born out of wedlock in 1944 or towards the person with a different skin color in 2020, is wrong. ALL LIFE IS PRECIOUS IN GOD’S EYES and should be in our’s as well.
This experiment with the lives of babies is appalling. What we are doing to each other today, here in the United States and all over the world, is just as appalling if not more so.
We need each another – we need love and affection from one another to survive. Not Hate. Hate and disregard for life will destroy us. If you don’t believe what I say or what God says, then the deaths of these precious babies proves it.
God knew that being Loved and Loving others was so important to our survival, that it is mentioned 551 times in the New International Version (NIV) Bible.
In Mark 12: 28-31 it says:
28 One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?”
29 “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.”
It doesn’t say Love only your black neighbor, or only your white neighbor, or love only the neighbors you like that invite you over for Bar B Que, or the one that lets you borrow their power tools.
Black, white, yellow, green, young, old, Hispanic, Irish, Christian, Jew, Muslim doesn’t matter. LOVE THEY NEIGHBOR…period. (And that doesn’t mean just the person living in the house next to you.)
Galatians 5:13 For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.
God is Love and we desperately need Him – especially now. God loved us so much that He couldn’t stand the the thought of Heaven without us. So he sent His son to die for us. He sent Love from heaven to earth to save us and so that we wouldn’t forget what Love is. Jesus died for you. He died for me. He died for the person or people you are Angry with.
He died for Democrats, Republicans, Blacks, Whites, the young and old. He died for everyone in our past, present and future. He died because He loved us…ALL OF US. Should we do anything less than Love Him back and Love each other as He loved us?
In John 15:13 it says “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
I think we need to all get down on our knees, repent and ask God to forgive us for acting like this. We’ve really made a mess of our world. We need to get our act together. We need to ask God to remove the Hatred and Anger from our hearts, from our lives and from the world He Created for us out of Love. It’s time to stop.
We can do this. We can do this together. We made a mess of things together and we can fix it together. We haven’t lost Love. It’s here. It’s in each of us. We just need to let it out.
We haven’t seen or heard much about Love lately because all the noise of Hatred and Anger has been louder and we’ve aloud it to drown Love out. We need to change our minds and hearts and make Love louder and stronger. We need to Let Love shine through us to light up the darkness.
We need to cling to what Love is. We need to ask God for forgiveness and healing and then cling to Him as tight as we can, so that we don’t loose sight of Love again and get washed away in all the madness around us.
We need to Believe that God and Love, together are greater than Hatred and darkness. We need to pray and ask Him to lead us as one people, a united country, a united world, as brothers and sisters united in Him.
We need to be a mirror of His love to everyone around us. Doing this will destroy the Hatred and Anger that has taken control of our world.
This remindes me of the story of Solomon when he fought the Egyptians. Solomon had positioned his troops on top of a hill facing the sun and had ordered his army to shine all of their shields.
When the Egyptians approached, Solomon instructed his army to turn their shields in such a way to let the sun reflect off of their shields. This blinded the Egyptian army and they fell to their death into a large crack in the earth right in front of the hill Solomon’s army was standing on.
We need to do the same. We need to put on the armor of God, use the shield of faith and let God’s Love shine in us to blind the enemy of Hatred and Anger.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails.
GOD and LOVE IS ALL WE NEED.
From my heart to yours, VICTORIA